Healing the Sister Wound
This is a deeply sensitive topic for me and one that I’ve previously shied away from sharing because the wounds run deep and I had once thought that I was alone in feeling them…
Recently, I can see that the collective consciousness is rising, we are waking up to what is no longer working for any of us and fellow sisters are beginning to utter words of wisdom about the witch wound, and to share stories of how it has impacted them.
Through this vulnerability and openness from others, I felt called to share my own experience in rising from the ashes, in the hope that I can help others to do the same.
You see, the sister wound lives in all of us.
It stems from the patriarchal fear that our feminine power, when combined, undermined the patriarchal need for power and control. And so, instead of honouring our ability to connect and promote harmony, the system turned us against each other.
It made us feel that we are;
Too much,
Too anxious,
Too vulnerable.
That we have nothing to give,
That others won’t like us,
That we should compete.
We’d all like to think that we are above such manipulation, but often it’s so ingrained that we aren’t even aware of its impact.
Maybe we think that because a female can now be the CEO that things have changed. But too often those who rise in patriarchal systems have simply learned how to play the game, they are not necessarily honouring the divine feminine and raising up their fellow sisters.
So, I invite you to ask yourself the following questions, and then tell me, have you ever suffered at the hands of the sister wound?
⁃ Have you ever been ostracised from a group of girls (or women)?
- Or, are you the one who purposely excludes others?
⁃ Do you judge other women for their lifestyle choices? For how they look, or how they dress?
⁃ Do you gossip about other women? Or do you often have the feeling that other women are gossiping about you?
⁃ Do you feel jealous if someone is prettier/smarter/more talented than you? Or have you been the victim of other women’s jealous behaviour?
We’d all love to answer “no” to these questions I’m sure, but we only heal the sister wound by acknowledging that it exists. We want to say, “I don’t do that” or, “maybe I gossiped when I was younger but I grew out of it”. But our power comes from saying “I do that, and I don’t want to anymore.”
If you’d like to learn more about healing the witch wound, and it’s companion, the sister wound, here are some options:
In this episode of the We ebb and flow podcast, I share my own personal journey of healing from the Sister Wound.
For my fellow sensitive sisters who have maybe also suffered at the hands of bullies at school or in the workplace, I offer 1:1 coaching to help heal your wounds. Have a look at my coaching page and book a free discovery call if you think I could help.
In October, I am hosting a women’s retreat called ‘The Cauldron’ where we’ll dive even deeper into the history of the witch, we’ll have a powerful workshop on healing the witch wound, and we’ll also reclaim and celebrate sacred ceremonies like Samhain (or, Halloween, as we now know it).
